It is generally considered
in handwriting analysis that extreme difference in personality traits will make
a couple “incompatible”, or at least have trouble getting along with each other.
And it’s true, it certainly makes things more difficult the more extreme the
differences.
Compatibility can sometimes be
surprising.
However, I recently came
across the writing of my parents, now sadly deceased, but who were one of the
happiest married couples I have ever seen, still in love throughout the entire
51 years of their marriage. Interestingly enough, their writing showed traits
that might at first glance seem incompatible.
My mother’s writing slants
far to the right (showing strong emotional expression and impulsiveness) is very
large and light in pressure (showing that nothing bothered her much for long)
and has the shallow sharp points on m and n of the information skimmer.
My dad’s writing was quite
different. Upright (showing a cool, calm and collected individual), it was also
small (showing the ability to concentrate well.) And it was very heavy
(demonstrating how he took things very deeply to heart.) The needle sharp tops
on m and n showed the comprehensive thinker, some wedge shaped tops of
information seeker, and the baseline V formations of the analytical thinker.
Dad was an academic.
These two would seem to be
almost diametrically opposed as far as personality goes. They were certainly
very different, and they never had their handwriting analyzed until I became a
graphologist.
But in practice they
proved to be amazingly
compatible. My mother was the warm, emotional one, a grade one
teacher who absolutely loved kids. She held the family together, and if I
wanted something from my father, I’d usually ask my mother to get it for me.
She knew how to twist him around her little finger – and taught me how to do it
too!
She found the friends and
invited them over, chatted to them when they were there. Dad would join in the
conversation with gusto when it interested him, offering all sorts of amazing
and sometimes obscure information - and was very quiet when it didn’t!
My father read encyclopedias
for fun! He was always very quiet and seemingly withdrawn, and although I loved
him dearly, I could never see how my fun loving mother found him good company.
He took life very seriously, and seldom expressed a feeling in words – and yet I
could feel that he FELT, and he was so kind – when he noticed me!
My dad kept my mother in
check. He held back her impulsiveness, offered her a calmer viewpoint – which
was not always well accepted at first – and generally kept life on an even keel.
They were very much
opposites as anyone could easily see, but they had learnt to work together using
each others strengths, not fighting against the differences. And yet
statistically, both from handwriting and other assessments, they were at very
high risk of being a couple that did not make it.
I like to think that with
understanding any two people can get along. For some it’s natural and easy, for
others it takes time to learn how to do it, but my parents show it can be done.
But whether a couple is similar or very different the
understanding that comes
from handwriting analysis makes getting along a whole lot easier
