Ever wished you could know what your new date is really like, NOW?  Do you get tired of relationships which seem to have potential, then “fizzle.”  Or dates you thought you could trust and later find out you couldn’t? 

Wasted time!  Wasted emotion!  Heartache! 

One way to effectively reduce ‘getting to know you” time is by having a careful look at your date’s handwriting. 

Even just a signature will get you started, although the more writing you have the better. 

Compare your writing to his/hers.  Do you both slant your writing in a similar direction?  This shows how expressive you will be of your feelings.  Generally speaking, the farther right the slant, the more expressive.  The farther left the slant, the more the feelings will be held inside.  You don’t have to be an exact match for compatibility, but the closer the better. 

Next take a look at how heavily each of you press on the paper as you write.  The heavier the pressure, the more you take things to heart and the longer it will take you to let go of feelings.  Very light pressure shows, that although feelings may be intense for a while (either expressed or unexpressed, depending on the slant) that they won’t last long. Bygones will be bygones very quickly. 

How will this work out in a relationship? 

Consider this hypothetical scenario.  Susan writes heavily and with a strong right slant.  This means she shows how she feels.  The feelings are intense and last a long time.  She meets Frank.  He has an upright, slightly left hand slant, and his pressure is light (meaning he holds his feeling inside, and they will diminish quickly) 

Things go well for a while.  They may find they have a lot in common and enjoy the same activities. The outlook is rosy. 

But eventually they have a disagreement.  Susan becomes very emotional and freely expresses her feelings (as shown in her right hand slant.)  This makes Frank uncomfortable.  He remains calm however (as shown in his upright slant.)  But calm is not what Susan understands!  Doesn’t Frank FEEL anything about this?  (He does, he just doesn’t show it.)  So the misunderstanding becomes greater. 

Next time they meet, Susan (the heavy writer) is still upset, and of course, being a right slanted writer, it still shows.  Frank on the other hand, is still calm, in fact he’s not even feeling very much inside about it any more.  His light pressure has allowed him to let go and move on. 

Susan thinks Frank is cold and heartless.  Frank thinks Susan is overly emotional and just can’t get over things……….. 

If they stay together, this pattern will repeat, and repeat, and repeat. 

So next time you find a delectable date – save time by checking their writing!

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